"St. Francis de Sales tells us that pious women should be well-dressed, but this doesn't mean they must become slaves of fashion. There's a way of dressing which is attractive, even elegant, but at the same time modest and simple. More importantly, attractiveness shouldn't be reserved for guests and those you meet outside the home, while you 'let yourself go' when you're at home. The moment a couple marries, they should begin to try always to be at their best for each other, physically (and above all) spiritually."
-Dr. Alice von Hildebrand
I love being a woman, therefore, I love dressing in a feminine and attractive manner. I do not understand women who willingly let themselves go or who do not take the time to mind their appearance. Do they not love their husbands? Do they not love themselves? Do they not care about the example they are setting for their children, especially their daughters?
It is not difficult at all to take the extra time needed in order to curl one's hair (or pin it up with a pretty clip) and put on a little makeup before beginning the day. Even with little ones it is quite possible. Putting on a pretty, yet practical skirt and blouse is another wonderful way to add beauty to your overall appearance. As you go about your duties, you may wish to protect your outfit with a lovely apron of your choice, as the women of old were known to do.
My little boys love that I wear beautiful, long flowing skirts. They think I look like a princess. Little Bear prefers it when I wear my hair down in waves. As a matter of fact, if ever I tie it up in a messy bun or a pony tail, he will ask me to promptly take it down. It is quite humorous, but I am more than happy to oblige him. Even little boys at his tender age have opinions on feminine beauty.
I believe beauty is needed now more than ever. Our modern age seems to prefer bare, plain, and simple design/art that is stripped of any real meaning. Gone are the days of breathtaking cathedrals, stunning paintings of beautiful men and women in exquisite clothing, and music that moved one to tears of awe while lifting the spirit to that which is beyond ourselves.
By me choosing to take care of my body - thereby preserving my health and youth - and taking the extra time in the mornings to dress attractively and femininely, I am declaring to my family that they matter to me. They are most important. My husband, especially, deserves a wife that desires to look her best for him. After all, he is the king of our home, and I, the queen.
But I am also declaring to the world that I love being a feminine woman. In a world that seeks to blur the lines between the genders more and more, thereby eradicating any differences, I believe seeking to combat this demonic trend is of most importance. That is also why I choose to wear skirts and dresses on an exclusive basis.
Embracing my femininity is to me a sacred duty - a very serious obligation. How we dress, how we think, how we act matters tremendously. It is a way to preach the good news of Christ without saying a word. That is why this seemingly superficial topic matters so much to me. It is much more than just seeking to be beautiful for the sake of beauty.
I will write more on this topic later, but for now, I will leave off here, my dear readers. If you have any additional thoughts, please feel free to share them in the comments down below.
Your little boys sound sweet. I like your thoughts on feminine dress. Looking good really helps fight the blahs, too. It really gives me a boost. My little boy loves it when I wear a ponytail. For most of his life, my hair was worn down, but one day I needed a ponytail because of wind, and when I went to wake him in the morning, he was intrigued. He wanted to touch it all day. It was really cute.
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