Wednesday, January 6, 2021

Happy Wife, Happy Life?

Happy wife, happy life? 🤔

Actually, it is not the husband's job to make his wife happy. Happiness is a state of mind she must ultimately decide for herself. Instead, his job is to make sure she feels treasured (special and loved), safe (secure and protected) and respected (honored as the weaker vessel).

Perhaps a better saying would be, "Holy spouse, happy house," because a marriage built on godly principles is a foretaste of heaven. 

Do You Desire a Life Long Marriage?

My advice to women desiring a lifelong marriage:

1. Let your husband be.

If you keep to a clean diet, while he prefers the occasional junk food - let him enjoy what he likes! If he has hobbies he likes to engage in after work - encourage them. Do not make your disapproval of any of his choices known, whether by word, attitude or action. Give your husband the freedom to do be who he is and to do what makes him happy, provided it isn't harming you or the children. Remember - no man wants a mother for a wife. It is NOT your responsibility to raise your husband.

2. Dress for him.

If there is any person you should be seeking to please, it is your husband. Whose opinion could ever come close to his? Therefore, if your husband likes you to dress a certain way, then by all means do so! And if he does not approve of an item of clothing you wear, it would be wise to give it up. As Timothy Gordon of the Rules for Retrogrades podcast recently quipped, "Don't be a walking contraceptive!" 😉 Most men want their wives to look beautiful.

3. Respect him, regardless of your feelings.

A husband wants his wife's complete loyalty. He needs to know that he can trust you, even while absent. Therefore, always seek to protect his reputation. Do not ever demean him or his choices, no matter what mistakes he has made. If you do not approve of something he says in a conversation, it is better to keep silent than to risk losing his trust by voicing your disapproval in front of everyone. Remember, "the heart of her husband doth safely trust in her" (Prov. 31:11). A wise woman honors her husband at all times